I was watching Charisma on command. It’s a YouTube channel that shares tips on human interactions. Ever so often, they will do a video on a celebrity or a TV character. These are called charisma breakdowns and are super fun to watch. They have done one on Elon Musk, Donald Trump, Emilia Clarke, Joe Rogan, PewDiePie and many other people.
So, the video I was watching was about Sophie Turner. She’s the person who plays Sansa Stark on Game of Thrones. I have seen Sophie come across as a very likable person despite not being too assertive of dominant. So, I was very excited to learn about what Charlie from Charisma on command had to say about this. And sure enough, Charlie acknowledged that Sophie doesn’t come across as the most comfortable person around people. She can easily be categorized as a shy and introverted person. Yet she can capture attention, make people listen to her, make jokes, rap in a national TV all the while she is having fun and people around her are enjoying her company too!
This is something many shy and introvert people, like me, will give a kidney to learn. Ok that was an exaggeration. We don’t care that much about mingling with people. That’s why we are called introverts in the first place. But, its certainly worth to take 10 minutes out of our day to read about it.
So, if you haven’t already clicked out of the blog post to see Charlie’s video, then thanks.. I guess? Here’s what I learned from there and what are the results I am seeing.
Ok first let me warn you the video was uploaded just a few days ago, so I’ve had only 2 or 3 days to test the ideas out. The results are not statistically significant but just anecdotal evidence.
Ok enough of me ranting on a tangent, here’s the lesson I’ve personally found most insightful from the video. People like underdogs. If you are a shy and introverted person, then this is the card that you may want to play. Nobody expects you to put an effort into social gatherings, nobody expects you to speak up at little discomforts but if you do, you become an underdog, who’s fighting for what he believes in. You are David from the Goliath story.
Just being shy and intimidated is not sexy. Its not inspiring or interesting. Sometimes its annoying, most of the time it’s just invisible. I mean shy and intimidated people are. But, the moment you try, you are the hero who is trying to fight against an adversity. You are the person who is rejecting what fate has given him and trying to claim what he deserves. Ok sorry for being too dramatic. I know the world doesn’t see my personal struggle with my shyness as the great fight of the century. But, it’s admirable. Not just my fight, but everyone’s fight. Whenever a person, who is intimidated, still makes an effort to say hello and smiles, instead of burying his face into a book or a smartphone, the world acknowledges that, and admires and loves him for that.
Ok, so my experience supports all this I said above. Actually, all of this is my experience, Charlie never goes into these details about the topic. He talks about many other things. Most of what you just read comes from my own experience.
So, there you go. Had to share this with you because I think its awesome. There’s one more post I am planning to write and it’s about active listening. So, stay tuned for that, I guess. See you in the next one 🙂
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